Parenting – sometime called positive discipline, gentle guidance or loving guidance or simply GUIDANCE, keeps our kids on the right path and, offered in a positive way that resists any temptation to be demanding. parenting is an alternative to the punitive, authoritarian approach we are more acquainted with. It is a change of mindset from punishing bad behaviors to actively and creatively modeling and teaching your children about positive behaviors.

Parenting is an alternative to the punitive, authoritarian approach we are more acquainted with. It is a change of mindset from punishing bad behaviours to actively and creatively modeling and teaching your children about positive behaviours.

The relationship between parents and their children can have a great influence on their psychological and social well-being. However, parents are not always prepared to be parents, especially when they do not have the support from their families or partners.

There are five levels of intervention of increasing strength in PARENTING:

  1. Universal Parenting
  2. Selective Parenting
  3. Primary Care Parenting
  4. Standard Parenting
  5. Enhanced Parenting
  6. Level 1: Universal Parenting

    This level of intervention targets everyday behavior difficulties and it is for all parents interested in promoting their child’s development. The purpose is to encourage parents to participate in positive parenting interventions and help them become more confident and self-sufficient.

    Level 2: Selective Parenting

    This level is for parents with a specific concern about their child’s behavior or development. Many specific behaviors are targeted, such as bedtime routine difficulties, toilet training, and temper tantrums.

    Level 3: Primary Care Parenting

    This level aims itself at parents having specific concerns about their children’s behaviors or development which require active skills training. The targeted behaviors are similar to the ones in level 2.

    Level 4: Standard Parenting

    This level targets parents of children with more severe problems who want intensive training in parenting skills. Possible behaviors to target are aggressive behaviors, oppositional defiant disorder, conduct disorder and learning difficulties.

    Level 5: Enhanced Parenting

    The highest level is for parents of children with concurrent child behavior problems and family dysfunction such as relationship conflict. Other behaviors are possibly persistent conduct problems and child maltreatment. Usually, at this level, children have quite severe behavioral problems. However, these problems are complicated by additional family factors.

    Parents need to be supported and, sometimes, taught how to be parents. The Positive Parenting has been proven effectively impact on parenting skills and children’s lives.

    Positive Parenting Solutions

    A safe and engaging environment must be ensured for children of all ages. In order to promote a healthy development and prevent accidents at home, this principle is essential.

    Besides a safe environment, children also need a positive parenting environment. Parents are their children’s first teacher and set an example (right or wrong) in everything they do. They teach their kids how to walk, how to speak and how to socialize. Parents need to positively respond to their child’s needs and interactions. The next principle is to use an assertive discipline. The right management strategies must be used to discipline children. Instead of physical punishment, parents are taught to use more effective strategies. These strategies include the setting up of rules for specific situations, discussing these rules with children, using quiet time and timeouts, etc.

    Sometimes parents have unrealistic expectations for their children. This could lead to parents abusing and neglecting their children. Having realistic expectations helps children to appropriately develop.

    The last principle is to take care of oneself as a parent. Being a parent can be stressful. Parenting as part of a larger context related to self-care, resourcefulness, well-being and maintaining self-esteem.

    5 Ways to Achieve Positive Parenting

    1. Modeling

    Have you ever played peek-a-boo with your child and then they start doing it back to you? Our children learn from everything we do and our actions directly impact them and how they choose to behave. Our kids are continuously watching us and even if they’re not, we should certainly act like they are. If you want your kid to develop manners, you need to model them. If you want your kid to share, you should demonstrate sharing with them. Children evolve within the environment they are brought up in and modeling appropriate behavior influences positive behavior.

    2. Play

    As a kid, “house” is a common game child would play. It was actually one of my favorites. I would make my mom hold the plastic pots and forks, stirring imaginary macaroni. It might just seem like a simple game, but in reality, it develops the child’s brain and teaches them basically how to do life. Play is a vital component to developing the child cognitively, socially, and emotionally. It allows you to connect with your child.

    Here are some tips on play and ways to implement them:

    • House
    • Story-time: make up a happy story and engage your child in the storytelling
    • Board-games
    • Puzzles
    • Puppet-shows
    • Play school: let your child be the teacher, and you, the student
    • 3. Social Interaction

      “Never fear spoiling children by making them too happy. Happiness is the atmosphere in which all good affections grow.” Thomas Bray Developing and maintaining friendships allow children to grow. Social interaction provides advances in social skills, emotional intelligence, and cognitive development. Whether it’s just a few hours at the park or play with a friend, you’re giving your child the chance to interact with the world and life itself.

      It can also be used as a means of learning. They will learn to share and when to use appropriate behaviors, as well as when not to. Positive parenting if done correctly builds positive emotions and heightens self- esteem in parent and child, not just the child. One cannot look back at a different time and think that what was done that should be done now, only because it was done before.

      4. Talk and Listen

      Maintaining a close positive relationship ensures that your child is comfortable in confiding with you, as he or she should be. It is important to be avid participants in your child’s life. Also, actively listening to them when they come and talk to you is important in maintaining this positive relationship. Encourage your child to ask you questions. This will result in your child being comfortable to come to you now and even later in life. The earlier years of your child’s development are most important for developing this positive relationship.

      5. Positive Relationship with Your Partner

      It is crucial to realize that your child is a mirror image of the how you hold yourself and your relationship with your partner. They notice the way you both act when you’re around each other and this could positively or negatively impact your child’s development, believe it or not.

      Enough times, children are brought up in an emotionally abusive home and this negatively affects how they think and feel.

      10 Reasons to Embrace Positive Parenting:

      There are many benefits to taking a positive, intuitive approach to your parenting style. The main ones being a happy home and your children feeling appreciated and respected.

      1. A more peaceful home

      Positive parenting leads to peaceful parents, which leads to more peaceful children. If power struggles are a problem in your home, this approach greatly reduces them. Disciplinary approaches create conflict which put you against your children. With positive parenting, you work with them to promote better behavior, which naturally leads children to fight less for their independence and you to struggle less for control. Open communication and peaceful resolution are the keys

      2. More Confident Kids

      Children receiving positive parenting are more confident than those parented by other methods. While corrective parenting focuses on their faults and shortcomings, which often leads to low self-confidence. Positive parenting focuses on the behaviors you want from your child as well as their successes. This focus builds a healthy sense of self-esteem and self-confidence, which are essential for your child to grow into a happy adult.

      3. More confidence in your parenting skills

      Positive parenting is about doing what feels right. When you follow your instincts, you feel like a better parent. Have you ever punished your child and felt terrible about it? Perhaps you even went into another room and cried because doing so broke your heart. If it makes you feel that bad, there has to be a better way. And there is!

      When you positively parent your child, you trust your instincts. This confidence comes through to your children. Being confident in your parenting abilities is part of what makes your child feel safe and secure. If you feel like you don’t know what you are doing, your child will pick up on that.

      Ever notice how an infant respond when someone who isn’t confident with them tries to hold them? They cry. When they hand the crying baby over to someone who is confident in what to do, they calm down. If infants can sense this confidence, so can older children.

      4. A stronger parent-child relationship

      Punishing a child teaches them they can’t trust you as you might hurt them. Whether this pain is emotional or physical, children don’t understand that you are trying to do what is best for them. Our children were not born knowing the rules. They only understand what we teach them and if it is hurtful, all they know is that the person they love the most has hurt them. This leads to mistrust in the relationship. Trust is an essential part of the parent-child relationship. When you tell your child “it will be okay” you want them to believe you. You want them to know they can count on you when they need you. Without trust in you, your child has no sense of a safe center from which to explore. They feel a deep-seated insecurity and mistrust of the world that affects them well into adulthood.

      5. Fewer Behavioral Issues

      Children parented positively have fewer behavioral issues. This is because of modeling. Children act out what they learn from you in the home. If disciplinary or aggressive behaviors (even simple verbal threats) are used at home, your children are more likely to display these behaviors in other environments. This is especially true for children with any sort of developmental delay or disorder like A.D.D. or autism. Act the way you would like them to act, with kindness, consideration and emotional intelligence. There are many tips for dealing with difficult behaviors which can help you create cooperative relationships through a loving approach.

      6. Less Aggressive

      Studies show that children of negative parents are more likely to be aggressive than those from positive parenting households. This is again due to modeling the behaviors they see at home. If your child learns how to manage their frustration and anger through open communication without punishment they will be less likely to act aggressively towards others.

      7. Fostering Independence and Self-Control

      Positive parenting is about encouraging and teaching good behavior in children. It also encourages them to behave not out of fear of punishment, but out of a desire to feel good. When you use negative discipline, your child may behave, but it will be out of fear. But what happens when your child grows up and no longer fears your consequences? You want your children to learn to manage their impulsive because it is the “right” thing to do, not out of fear of being punished. You want them to learn that they get a good feeling (positive reinforcement) when they do a good thing. This is how they can develop self-control and a clear sense of right and wrong, which will serve them throughout their lifetime.

      8. Happier Kids

      Kids with positive parents tend to be happier than those from punitive parents. Studies have shown a link between “negative” parenting and depression in the teen years and even into adulthood. Those children from positive parents have a much lower incidence of depression. This is as a result of children having higher self-esteem and more positive relationships with their parents as well as others.

      9. More Empathetic

      When you positively parent, you model empathy for your child. Instead of engaging them in what not to do, you let them know you understand how they feel, this is the seed of empathy. The best way to teach your child this important skill is by example. You will soon notice your child showing empathy, too. Perhaps they will show kindness by giving a friend a hug or sharing their favorite toy. You’ll know it when you see it, and it will make it all worth it.

      10. Less Stress

      Conscious positive parenting allows you to relax and enjoy your children. When you have a peaceful home with no power struggles and kids who actually want to do the right thing, you spend more time enjoying them instead of constantly trying to keep them out of trouble. You can play, become creative in the way you teach your kids how to be happy. This is the greatest advantage of positive parenting! After all, they are only little for a short time, spend that precious time with them wisely.

      A Take Home Message

      Positive parenting is considerably difficult, but with enough time and energy, it is the best way to be a parent. The outcomes of positive parenting are nothing but beneficial to both the parent and the child.

      Being a parent is arguably the hardest job on earth and not every person expects to become a parent, but some do. It is no simple task, but the reward it offers is priceless and I am sure no parent would trade that for anything.

      “Life affords no greater responsibility, no greater privilege, than the raising of the next generation.” – Charles Everett Koop


      1. Be a good listener to your child what they want to share.
      2. Parents should form a team to perform parenting and to deal with their children emotional, behavioral and developmental problems.
      3. Being a single parent he/she has to play a strong role of both a father and mother.
      4. Always monitor your child in the form of guidance.
      5. Spent quality time with the children.
      6. Encourage your child to be independent, sincere, honest and punctual.
      7. As children imitate every action of what they observe, so parent should be the role model for their kids for every step.
      8. Always guide them to share and care about their things with everyone.
      9. Always keep your word in front of your children so that they should learn to speak truth.
      10. Parents should show the importance of self-esteem so that the child should learn to work on his own.


      1. Don’t compare your child with others.
      2. Don’t fulfill your child’s wishes immediately let them wait for a while and get the importance of their demand.
      3. Don’t let your child to manipulate your duties of parenting.
      4. Don’t imply that there is only one right way to do the things let them try their own ways.
      5. Don’t assume that you know everything about what the child is thinking or feeling about anything they know.
      6. Don’t force them for your choice of career so that they will fell as duty let them be the artist of their own career and feel them happy and confident.
      7. Don’t shout on them try to listen and have discussion on the topic then make the decision.
      8. Don’t disclose your financial status even don’t discuss your financial problems with your children.
      9. Don’t allow them to be on the social networking sites till they complete their secondary.
      10. Don’t expect from your child that they cannot give up, teach them to face the loser ship and accept the result to fight again.